I had a very interesting conversation with a close friend last night. She just went through a really nasty break up and pretty much accused her ex as (in her own words) “a lazy, good for nothing manipulative schmuck”. She came up with that after reading an article another friend showed her. She came to me because we had similar experiences, we both dealt with toxic people. I read the article (it’s about brain washing/behavior of manipulative people, if you haven’t clicked it yet) and I swear I laughed out loud because it’s so spot on!
Usually, one might feel anger towards a manipulative person once he or she is done dealing with him or her. It’s a natural reaction, to be angry for being taken advantage of. I, on the other hand, just feel pity mostly because I know manipulative people are just slaves of their own insecurities.
It amazes me how my friend managed to let things go on for so long (four years). I can certainly relate though I consider what I went through less severe than her experience. Four years is a long time. It must be hard, ruthlessly trying to get things your way and then playing the victim if you don’t, for that long a time. And some people wonder why they always end up alone.
Sad, isn’t it?
Anyhoo, I wish things will get better for my friend (eventually naman, it does get better). Goodluck moving on and such 🙂
On a totally unrelated note, I’m gonna have my hair re-bonded this week! I’m excited and all but the idea of sitting on my ass for more or less six hours is gonna be hard.
… and nasty, nasty weather. Make sure y’all prepare an emergency bag just in case.